The Christmas Wound: Why is Christmas a tough period for people?

Are you having a hard time during the Christmas period each and every year? You are not alone! Christmas can indeed be one of the toughest times of year for quite a few people. This is linked to a few things. But the Christmas wound is one of them and is prevalent among many families, traditions and ancestries.

Each and every year the festive period approaches. And each and every year it is a different experience for almost everyone out there. For those people who grew up with Christmas and who celebrate it every year, you might have mixed opinions and experiences on it. Some may even dread it. Here is why!

On one hand, you have the group of people who absolutely love Christmas and everything that goes with it. They already start blasting Christmas songs in August of September. They may decorate their homes and trees as early as possible (these days it might be as early as October). And they can't wait once Christmas is over for it to be next year again. They might even have a countdown timer for it each and ever year.

I have the strong suspicion that these are typically the people who tend to avoid real life problems, go along with every agenda and are somehow still stuck in a "my childhood was better than now" loop. Because they can't face the trauma and responsibilities of adulthood and Christmas gives them a short period when the world is "healed" and good and oh-so-worth living. But this may not be the case for everyone.

Then you have the group of people who perhaps don't care as much for it. Who may go Christmas shopping a few weeks or days (if even) before the holiday and who are overall not very bothered by it. They can do with and without it.

However, for a large chunk of people who were raised with the Christmas culture and Christian values, this time of year can be a bit of a painful holiday. A bag of mixed emotions, mixed experiences and mixed overall reactions is released. This may be the most dreaded time of year for them. Or the even the most toxic one! There are several reasons for this:

1) Childhood Trauma and Christmas:

The experiences we have made when we were young play a huge role in this. If you were around a dysfunctional and toxic family, this behavior was likely exasperated during Christmas. You might have grown up with fighting parents or overall unpleasant interactions. You may have even been forced to perform songs or play a musical instrument to "deserve" unwrapping your gifts underneath the Christmas tree.

The cruelty and irony of this attitude towards small children shall not go unnoticed. Christmas is on one hand being promoted as a holiday of "family" and love. But then there are so many conditions attached to redeeming that love or even receiving your gifts that in actuality it is more like a redemption game of points.

"If you are not good this year, Santa will not give you anything for Christmas" is a phrase many may have heard one too many times. Does this sound like a good cause of childhood trauma in case the child was difficult to deal with when growing up? And the parents (who mostly should have not become parents to begin with) did not know how to deal with their behavior in a mature, adult way? You bet it was!

Or, if you grew up in foster care, at a boarding school, or were an orphan, you may have not have anyone who cared for you during Christmas. Instead, you were the lone child who was always alone during these type of holidays. Imagine the trauma this evokes?

Never mind all those happy family commercials, which feature a family of 4 and 5, preferably both grandparents still alive. Here you are, as a child, alone and unloved. How could you possibly wrap your head around a holiday meant for families - and then your own life? The programming is complete. Society and its conditioning is cruel indeed.

Of course this type of extensive trauma carries over into adulthood and can take on several different shapes. Unless people recognize the patterns for what they are, they will continuously reinforce the programming and conditioning they grew up with. Breaking the cycle is absolutely a most. But many people are never taught how to do the work or where to even start.

2) The Christmas Wound:

There is something called the Christmas Wound, which is not talked about nearly enough. Perhaps never. It goes hand in hand with the Christmas program mentioned below! The Christmas Wound is exactly what is sounds like: Psychological, emotional, mental, psychic wounding we experience due to this time of year.

For the most part, the wound goes back to childhood and how good or bad our perceptions of Christmases were then. This may have been the time of year you experienced the most stage fright due to the forced musical performances. Or when your parents fought the most. Or when you had to be nice to family members, who were not great people or who you didn't get along with.

This may have also been a mixed bag of experiences. Christmas may have been fine as a child but then something shifted as you became older and a teenager. All of a sudden you were bored and unappreciative of your time spent at home. Or a family member passed and the holiday became a day of grief, sadness, anger and frustration.

But in actuality the Christmas Wound goes way deeper. It goes back hundreds and even thousands of years ago. From the first time Christmas was celebrated (medieval ages and before), there has always been this societal and family pressure put on people to be festive, to gift each other something and to spend time with one another.

Imagine the amount of wounding this brings up when Christmases in general are not a great time for many! This strange portal of year actually opens up many doorways to entities, sad emotions and many more things. And here the majority of people are forced to be around one another and to pretend all is happy and dandy. To pretend wars were not happening during this time or that nothing awful really exists.

Now imagine two or more people coming together with a lot of unhealed trauma, wounding and unrealistic expectations during this time of year. The catastrophe, tension and friction is almost unavoidable!

Most have tried and still try to escape this warped reality with alcohol and it's no wonder why. This opens up even more portals for spirits to enter. The disaster is almost perfect.

In my opinion, an unhealed Christmas Wound is that of pain, sorrow, grief, disappointment, trauma, loneliness - all at once. It takes a lot to recognize this, empower yourself from it and heal it. Awareness is the key!

3) The Christmas Program:

The constant bombardment during this time of year with Christmas carols, imagery and programming is pretty noticeable to people who are somewhat aware of the matrix. Yet to most unaware, unawake people, it simply is not. Its no wonder it's unpleasant to be around them during this holiday.

The over-commercialization of this holiday may have started a few decades ago only. However, as already discussed in the Christmas wound, the programming goes far deeper and breaks through many timelines, lineages and ancestries.

Yes, of course it's absolutely deplorable to see how train, plane and gasoline prices go up regularly during this time of year. Simply because families want to reunite with one another. Not to mention that some people go in debt for expensive gifts to shower others with "love" when in actuality it's simply silly and not necessary.

I get it! On one hand it can be great to be with family and spend time together. On the other, as already discussed in the point above, the absolute worst characters can come out during this time of year simply due to entity attachments, past live wounds and childhood wounds around Christmas.

For me personally, once I started being an adult, I enjoyed alone time during this period much more than any festive party could ever give me. It takes a lot of one's energy to deal with people's unhealed accusations, trauma and snide remarks during this time of year. Also, once people start drinking alcohol (and so many still do), it's a feast fest for entities for those two days straight.

Sometimes Christmas can also be a true power game in family and relationship dynamics. Not only can it bring a lot of trauma to divorced families whose parents don't get along and might decide to withhold their children during this time of year from the ex-partner. But any bad relationship you may have with a relative is also overexaggerated during this time.

And then of course the relationship you are in takes on a dimension of its own due to the unnecessary programming involved with all this. I would not be surprised at all if most toxic couples decide to simply "stick it out" for Christmas instead of separating a long time ago already. Such is life for an unaware person - unnecessarily painful and prolonged in trauma, hurt and bad relationships.

When I was younger, I remember being with someone who insisted on not opening up our gifts until Christmas day. I was living in the US at the time already. However, I grew up in Germany and the gifting tradition is usually on Christmas Eve.

It turns out, this guy could have not cared less for when gifts are being opened. It was simply a power game for him to demand when it's done and see my disappointment when the gifts were not opened according to my own traditions. Needless to say, that toxic relationship did not last very long (due to many other factors, as well).

4) Santa - inverted Satan?

Christmas mixes many traditions into one at this point. It promotes pagan holiday traditions (Yule) in addition to the "birth of Jesus Christ". At one point "Santa" entered the game. When you play around with the letters a bit, one cannot ignore the word "Santa" turning into "Satan"...

As we know, words carry power. Our reality is shaped by energy, intentions and words. If you imagine kids saying "Santa" aka Satan from an early age on, you can see why Satan and the devil still swirl freely around. The more these rituals are enforced, the more demonic energy and momentum they gain.

Just a different perspective I am adding. In addition to the wounded and programmed aspect from above. Despite this, Yeshua's birthday (the real Jesus) was not during this time of year anyhow. So that part of the story has never made sense. It is part of the church programming that plays a huge role in this.

5) Christmas and Saturnalia?

Is Christmas actually Saturnalia? What is Saturnalia, if so? Saturnalia is a Roman festival, which was traditionally held from December 17th - December 23rd. Traditionally, this would have been the week (or just a few days in the beginning), during which the Roman God Saturn is celebrated. He was the God of agriculture, wealth, time, generation, abundance, and liberation. He is even associated with a mythical Golden Age of peace.

Saturn is the father of major gods like Jupiter (Zeus in Greek mythology). He was a significant deity, honored with the famous December festival, Saturnalia, and is linked to the planet Saturn and Saturday. Symbolizing harvest, cyclical renewal, and the passing of time. He is often depicted with a sickle or scythe. 

What else is Saturn known for? If we just consider him as the astrological planet, Saturn is known for hardships, karmic lessons and overall not a great time. Indeed, for some people Saturn, Pluto and Mars are the absolute worst transits in life. Or the worst astro lines to visit (when you consider astrocartography). Perhaps not the most loving, peaceful and happy-go-dandy attitude you may want to call in during this "family holiday" - or is it?

Here is an entry found online:

Christmas has strong cultural links and borrowed traditions from the Roman festival of Saturnalia. Especially regarding timing (mid-December), feasting, gift-giving, and revelry, though Saturnalia honored the god Saturn and occurred slightly earlier (Dec 17-23). Early Christians incorporated these popular winter solstice customs, shifting the celebration of Jesus' birth to December 25th to align with existing Roman festivities and other winter celebrations like Sol Invictus (Birthday of the Unconquered Sun).  

One can't ignore these coincidences in dates and traditions. Indeed, it is a matter of worship during these days. Now, with all the red (Satan / Saturn-like) colors, one does have to wonder if Saturnalia was all about the worship of Saturn or Satan, the good or the bad, and everything that goes with it. Seeing how much of the red colors the Catholic religion showcases in its churches during this time of year, it is quite questionable what is really being energetically reinforced and worshipped here.

Not to mention the concept of Saint Nicholas and Knecht Ruprecht, who actually hurts (aka beats with a stick) the "naughty" children (earlier in December). Or Krampus from Austria (also in the same month), who is an actual satanic-looking figure on hooves.

In Conclusion...

I hope this has helped someone today and in subsequent seasons, who are dealing with the Christmas wound right now. Of course you can apply these wounds to many other holidays, such as Valentine's Day, your own birthday and anything family-related.

However, since Christmas is the time of year for most families in the Western world (and is even celebrated in many other cultures to some extent, looking at Dubai's Christmas decorations and Asian shopping malls during this time of year), this is the biggest trauma that is continuously reinforced on people from day one.

Additionally, Christmas and Three Kings day is celebrated up until January 6th in some religions (take the Orthodox Christian church as an example). This in turn extends a lot of the pain and wounding portals opened up earlier.

It is important to recognize the concept for what it is. And be aware of why you may not like Christmas or why you may not enjoy the presence of others as much during this time of year. As an aware person, we owe it to ourselves to see through all deceptions, all programming and all trauma inflicted on us.

Christmas from my own personal experience can be either a really great time. Those are usually the times I spend it alone or with people who I really like (mostly friends). Or it can be a difficult time, filled with a lot of tears, arguments, friction and unnecessary drama.

It mainly depends on the people you spend it with. And if you've worked so much on your own self and are invited into a family that has a lot of unresolved issues, you might find yourself in the crossfires of some real family drama instead of enjoying your days off.

This happened to me once, in which a distant relative invited me with good intentions. He was married to a woman, whose family was extremely dysfunctional and constantly argued during the gift unwrapping. Instead of enjoying the time with my relative, I found myself regretting my travel decision. I left and hopped on a train back to my city the very next day.

If you want to know how to heal any ancestral programming and break through cycles, programming and many other things, the Ancestry Healing Course is just the right one for you! It can be extremely helpful, especially during this challenging time of year.

Heal your ancestry! Heal your Christmas Wound!

Merry Christ-mess to all! May you enjoy your time off to the max! And here is a video I made on this topic a few years ago:

~Laura from Shamanic Self is a certified Shamanic Healer, seer and intuitive psychic. She offers online courses and digital products that advance you on your spiritual journey.

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